Attract a Life

The question I get asked most by clients is:  How long is it going to take before I can get what I want?  Whether it’s a car, house, career, or husband, what I’ve discovered is that—when we want something, we want it NOW. 

I recently attended a law of attraction workshop given by my favorite teachers, the Abraham-Hicks people, and the topic of how to manifest quickly was talked about yet again.  For the past ten years, I’ve listened to hundreds of recordings and dialogues on this subject, but this weekend I heard it in a different way.  You know how that goes.  You can hear something, and then you can really HEAR something.  That’s when the penny drops.

The story I’m going to tell you best illustrates what I heard this weekend.

If ever there was a time in my life when I got an A+ for getting what I wanted, it was when I got to marry my husband.   No doubt about it, I aced it.  I did everything that I was supposed to do, the planets and stars were perfectly aligned; and my goal of getting a husband happened within four months.

So what did I do?  Well, it begins with telling you what I didn’t do.  I can honestly say that when I met Tim and started dating him, I did not think a lot about getting married.  For sure, the thought would cross my mind, but it did not dominate my life.  Why not?  Because the truth is, I was too absorbed in the deliciousness of being with him.  I was totally enjoying the process of getting to know him and having him get to know me.

My wedding day (goal) was a very happy day, BUT in all honesty, the process leading up to getting there, was so much more delicious.  This my friend, is the perfect recipe for manifesting swiftly.

How many times have we heard, it’s the journey that’s important, not the destination.  And as annoying as that statement can sometimes sound, you will never manifest that thing you want quickly, until you really HEAR this message.   If you don’t believe it, then you’re operating under a false premise.  It’s the process that is the reward, not the goal.  And if that statement irritates you, then know for sure that it’s as bad as having a brick wall between you and your dream.

So, what does all of this really say about being in that intermediate place prior to manifestation? What does it say about the process stage?  And how do we allow the process to be the juicy part?  For most of us, it begins by having a new and fresh understanding of the BIGNESS of having a desire in the first place.  There’s a lot going on in this phase, and if you miss it, your manifestation is going to take that much longer. 

Consider for a moment the following questions:

How is your desire causing you to expand and become more?
What delicious things are you discovering about yourself and your world as you pursue your goal? 
How is your creative energy being awakened by your desire?
What does your desire say about who YOU are and who you want to BE?

Learning to love the process is not something you can fake, and neither should you want to fake it.  I would never have wanted to miss out on the joy of discovering who I was being, and what I was feeling during my courtship.  If I had faked my love while being with Tim, I would never have ended up getting married.

The real secret to getting what you want quickly is to fall in love with the idea of it before you have it physically in your life.  Like the lover who looks forward to seeing her lover, try to find delight in the anticipation of having this thing come into your life.  Court the idea, play games with it, flirt with it, and allow yourself to feel the joy of wanting it.  This is what lovers do. 

When you eat a chocolate that has a delicious soft center, you would never ever swallow it down whole.  You want to bite into it and taste that delicious center, because you know that’s where the juice is.  Similarly, your juicy life happens in the unfolding of your desire, on the way to what you want.  Why would you want to miss out on this?  Bite into it and taste it.  Don’t miss the best part. And realize that you are always in the process of an amazing life.

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