I want it, and I want it NOW!

by on January 24, 2012

The question I get asked most by clients is:  How long is it going to take before I can get what I want?  Whether it’s a car, house, career, or husband, what I’ve discovered is that—when we want something, we want it NOW. 

I recently attended a law of attraction workshop given by my favorite teachers, the Abraham-Hicks people, and the topic of how to manifest quickly was talked about yet again.  For the past ten years, I’ve listened to hundreds of recordings and dialogues on this subject, but this weekend I heard it in a different way.  You know how that goes.  You can hear something, and then you can really HEAR something.  That’s when the penny drops.

The story I’m going to tell you best illustrates what I heard this weekend.

If ever there was a time in my life when I got an A+ for getting what I wanted, it was when I got to marry my husband.   No doubt about it, I aced it.  I did everything that I was supposed to do, the planets and stars were perfectly aligned; and my goal of getting a husband happened within four months.

So what did I do?  Well, it begins with telling you what I didn’t do.  I can honestly say that when I met Tim and started dating him, I did not think a lot about getting married.  For sure, the thought would cross my mind, but it did not dominate my life.  Why not?  Because the truth is, I was too absorbed in the deliciousness of being with him.  I was totally enjoying the process of getting to know him and having him get to know me.

My wedding day (goal) was a very happy day, BUT in all honesty, the process leading up to getting there, was so much more delicious.  This my friend, is the perfect recipe for manifesting swiftly.

How many times have we heard, it’s the journey that’s important, not the destination.  And as annoying as that statement can sometimes sound, you will never manifest that thing you want quickly, until you really HEAR this message.   If you don’t believe it, then you’re operating under a false premise.  It’s the process that is the reward, not the goal.  And if that statement irritates you, then know for sure that it’s as bad as having a brick wall between you and your dream.

So, what does all of this really say about being in that intermediate place prior to manifestation? What does it say about the process stage?  And how do we allow the process to be the juicy part?  For most of us, it begins by having a new and fresh understanding of the BIGNESS of having a desire in the first place.  There’s a lot going on in this phase, and if you miss it, your manifestation is going to take that much longer. 

Consider for a moment the following questions:

How is your desire causing you to expand and become more?
What delicious things are you discovering about yourself and your world as you pursue your goal? 
How is your creative energy being awakened by your desire?
What does your desire say about who YOU are and who you want to BE?

Learning to love the process is not something you can fake, and neither should you want to fake it.  I would never have wanted to miss out on the joy of discovering who I was being, and what I was feeling during my courtship.  If I had faked my love while being with Tim, I would never have ended up getting married.

The real secret to getting what you want quickly is to fall in love with the idea of it before you have it physically in your life.  Like the lover who looks forward to seeing her lover, try to find delight in the anticipation of having this thing come into your life.  Court the idea, play games with it, flirt with it, and allow yourself to feel the joy of wanting it.  This is what lovers do. 

When you eat a chocolate that has a delicious soft center, you would never ever swallow it down whole.  You want to bite into it and taste that delicious center, because you know that’s where the juice is.  Similarly, your juicy life happens in the unfolding of your desire, on the way to what you want.  Why would you want to miss out on this?  Bite into it and taste it.  Don’t miss the best part. And realize that you are always in the process of an amazing life.

 

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MadMen Begone!

by on January 8, 2012

I finally got around to watching the show Mad Men (I highly recommend you check out this show).  It’s set in 1960, and apart from having a great storyline and some juicy characters, what strikes me more than anything, is how far we’ve come in the last fifty-odd years.

You see, everyone in this show smokes and drinks 24/7—some of them while driving and even while pregnant. And the sexism is shameful. Women are cleverly compartmentalized by men—they are secretaries, “good time slutty girls”, or dutiful wives and mothers (the ultimate dream back then for women).  And the men view cheating on their women as a normal and healthy part of manhood.

Of course, you and I know that life in 2012 is not all squeaky-clean or equal. But there’s no denying that we’ve made huge strides.  Even in my own life, I can think back to a time in my early 20’s when I used to smoke and drink too much, when I used to cheat and lie in my relationships, when I used to think that I should be subservient to men in order to impress them, or when I used to think that I had nothing of value to say. 

The big question I love to ask is:  what causes people to CHANGE? 

If you want to improve your life, make more money, attract the perfect mate, build a better career, become more powerful, gain more confidence, and be more successful, there are endless self help books you can read, coaches who can coach you, exercises you can follow, and courses to take.  Knowing HOW to do something is the easy part.  What’s difficult is, how do you cause transformation in your life? Now that’s the million dollar question.

Here is how transformation has worked for me: 

1.  Suffering was a huge catalyst.  The seed of causing my life to change, always began with knowing what I did NOT want and WANTING something better for my life. I just got so fed up with suffering, feeling small, feeling unhealthy, feeling unclean, and feeling pinched off from abundance. 

2.  I made up my mind that I wanted to change.  I made a decision.  I had intension.  I kept my focus on the result I wanted.  The thought of going back to a life of suffering, kept me on focus.

3.  I armed myself with information, knowledge and advice on how to bring about change.  Most of it came from self help books, therapy, and getting coached by people who had themselves experienced transformation.

4.  I internalized that information.  I didn’t just read and listen, I practiced daily. I was persistent.  I always reminded myself that anything that was difficult would cause great results.  Repetition was the key.

5.  I kept my integrity.  Whenever I was out of integrity, I always reminded myself that it was slowing down the process.  Why would I want to put the breaks-on to getting what I wanted?

Everyone has the opportunity to read and interact with the same content, the same great advice, the same great people, but so few really experience the transformation they say they really want.  You may have tons of self help books, but if you’re reading them the same way you read a newspaper, then you can expect to become at best, a very informed reader.

It really comes down to two things:  would you rather READ about sex, or EXPERIENCE sex?  It’s really that simple.

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