I grew up dirt poor. We’re talking about living in a house with no bathroom–just a sink and an outside toilet that we shared with four other families.As a kid, I would look at other people’s wealth—the big house, car, vacations, and nice clothes—and I’d wonder: what is it that wealthy people know that my parents don’t know? I was convinced that it was just a simple case of finding a missing piece–like finding the missing jigsaw piece that would complete the puzzle.Fast forward to 2010–I live in a house that has 3 bathrooms. And no, I didn’t marry a plumber! What I discovered over the course of 40 odd years is that I had this relationship going on with money that I didn’t even know existed. And like every other relationship in my life, this one required just as much TLC for it to be functional and fun.Just when you think you’ve cleaned up your relationship life with lovers and friends, you realize that your relationship with money comes with all of the same issues, allure, longings and false promises.The Similarities are Uncanny:There is the stage of Unrequited Love–that’s when you crave money and want it so badly, but it doesn’t love you back.Then there’s the Infatuation Stage where you are obsessed with it, and you just can’t get enough.Then comes the Even-Keel Boring phase where it’s hanging around doing its thing, but there’s no magic and no excess.And then there’s the Dramatic phase when it turns sour on you, runs away, gets vicious, and breaks your heart (and your bank account).Who says you don’t have a relationship with money?Like any relationship, money will treat you the way you treat money. So, how do YOU treat it? Are you Disrespectful? You couldn’t be bothered to pick up a coin. Are you Abusive? You curse and swear every time you open your visa bill. Are you Untrusting? You EXPECT there to be never enough money.Are you Clingy? You hope others will “pick up” the tab.Are you Jealous? You resent others for having 3 bathrooms?
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What’s Your Relationship with Money?
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