Back in the days when I first started dating my husband, my married girlfriends would look at me enviously as if I’d been dipped in chocolate–I was in love, and when you’re in love it’s as if you are living the best version of yourself. This is your moment in the sun– you look your best, act your best, your body feels as if it’s had a much needed tune-up, people you formally dislike can do no wrong, and everything’s so utterly right with the world. Heck, you even fall head over heals with yourself.
My girlfriends advised me to “milk it” for all I could, because they warned me that the delicious feeling, would soon fade—and if I was lucky, I could probably stretch it out for two years.
Maybe you believe that passion for your partner has indeed, a shelf-life, after all, we see plenty of evidence to support this claim. News reports of men cheating on their wives (despite being drop-dead gorgeous), kind of confirms that this just may be the inevitable road we all go down. If Jesse James is bored with Sandra Bullock, if Brad Pit can dump Jennifer Aniston, then what hope is there for me? It’s just the way it goes…
Think back to when you first met your partner. Do you…
Remember how effortless it was to tune-into him?
Remember how single-minded you were about him?
Remember how you always looked for the positive aspects?
Remember how you were not negatively focused?
Remember how you loved your life?
Remember feeling Joy?
So What happened?
What you think happened is that HE lost interest in you, that he stopped paying attention, that he stopped sending you
flowers. But, the truth is that when you first met, he was just a catalyst to help bring out the best in you (and vise versa) and it’s actually that best version of yourself that you’re really missing. You’re missing you’re own personal alignment with YOURSELF, you’re missing hanging out with JOY! And that’s a lot to miss, isn’t it?
So, instead of demanding that HE change, or that you find someone new, become more deliberate in your FOCUS. Take another look for things to appreciate in him, tune-into his positive aspects, stop finding things to complain about, and focus on things in your life that put a smile on your face.
In short, GET HAPPY. And whether he stays or choses to leave, you’ll always have your wonderful self to love.
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Back in the days when I first started dating my husband, my married girlfriends would look at me enviously as if I’d been dipped in chocolate–I was in love, and when you’re in love it’s as if you are living the best version of yourself. This is your moment in the sun– you look your best, act your best, your body feels as if it’s had a much needed tune-up, people you formally dislike can do no wrong, and everything’s so utterly right with the world. Heck, you even fall head over heals with yourself. 
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